Translator: Jaime Ochoa
Reviewer: Elisabeth Buffard In my past life as a soccer coach, once you won a national championship, everyone wants to come play for you. Really not true. Once you paid them
$ 25,000 a year in scholarships, everybody wants
to come play for you. And parents would always
come to me and they’d say: “Okay, my son or my daughter
wants to come play at your university, what is it that we have to do? You know, what are you looking for?” And being the Socratic
professor that I am, I say, well, what does
your son or daughter do? What do they do really well
that we’d be interested in? And typically their answers are,
well, they’ve got great vision. They’re really good. They can see the entire field. Or, my daughter is the fastest player,
there’s nobody that can beat her. Or, my son’s got a great left-footer. Really great in the air
and can hit every ball. I’m like: “Yeah, not bad; but to be quite honest with you, those are the last things
I’m looking for. The most important thing? Self-confidence.” Without that skill, and I use
the word skill intentionally, without that skill, we are
useless as a soccer player. Because when you lose sight
or belief in yourself, we’re done for. I use the definition
of self-confidence to be the ability or the belief to believe in yourself,
to accomplish any task, no matter the odds,
no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity. The belief that you can
accomplished it, self-confidence. Some of you are saying,
“Great, I don’t have it. I’m so shy. I’ll never do that, bla, bla, bla.” And you start to drag
all the way down here. But, I use the word skill because I believe it can be trained. And I’ll show you a couple
of ways in which we do. Hopefully I won’t run out of time. I don’t use any slides because my speech always goes
here, or here, or here. So we’ll see which way we get to. The easiest way
to build self-confidence: there’s no magic button. I can’t say: “Hey, this plane
is going down, who can fly? Put your hand up.” “I can, I’m confident!” (Laughter) Repetition, repetition, repetition. Right? What does Malcom Gladwell call it,
the 10,000-hour rule? There’s no magic button. I recruited a goalie from Colombia,
South America one year. Big, tall 6’3″ man. You know, he had hands like stone. I thought he was like Flipper. Everytime I threw him the ball,
down, onto the ground. I was like, oh my god,
we’re in trouble. Simple solution: get to the wall, kick a ball against
the wall and catch it. kick the ball against
the wall and catch it. His goal was 350 a day
for eight months. He came back,
his hands were calloused, the moisture on his hands
were literally gone, he is now playing in Europe. Magic? No. Repetition, repetition, repetition. The problem is, we expect
to be self-confident but we can’t be unless the skill, or the task we’re doing, is not novel, is not new to us. We want to be in a situation where we have so
much pressure in that and what I mean, cause
pressure builds diamonds, we want to be in a situation where “hey, I’ve done this
a thousand times”. I did my speech, and I practiced in front of a mirror:
bla, bla, bla, bla, bla, bla. Hey I’m sounding good. And then I went
in front of my kids, and my wife. I said, oh gosh,
I got a little nervous. Then I’d get in front of Glenn Gould, Oh my goodness,
I am a little more nervous! By the time I get to the ACG, where 2,500 people,
can’t say anymore, right? Twenty-five hundred people, where twenty-five hundred
people are there, I won’t have a single
ounce of nervousness because of my ability to practice. Right? Over, and over, and over, again. The problem with repetition is: how many of us bail
after the first bit of failure? How many of us bail after
the first bit of adversity? Edison was on that video, and it depends who you ask, there’s anywhere from 1,000 to 10,000 tries
to build that light bulb. 1,000 to 10,000. J.K Rowling should be on that video. Do you know how many publishers
she took her Harry Potter book to? I believe the number was 12 or 13… I am pretty confident but
after two or three noes I’d be like: “damn it!”. After six or seven,
I’m like: “maybe not!” Definitely after nine or ten I’d be looking to be a soccer coach or something else besides an author. (Laughter) Right? I mean, twelve times somebody said no. But, practice, practice, practice,
and do not accept failure. Maybe it shouldn’t be repetition, maybe the answer
should be persistence. Because we all repeat something but
very few of us really will persist. So that’s one way
to build self-confidence. Get out there. Do what you want to do
and do not accept no. The other one is self-talk. We all have a self-talk tape
that plays in our head. Anybody go shopping and
put on a pair of pants this week? If you’re a woman, the first thing that always comes: “damn I look fat in these pants!.” And if you’re a man,
it’s the opposite: “Oh god, I got no muscle,
I’m so flabby!” Right? We all have this tape
that plays in our head. As a student,
if they asked me the question, it was like: “Oh, gee please professor
don’t pick me, I don’t know the answer.” I’d look down. Right? If you’re in the b…when I,
let me tell you something, and the VP of business adminis.
here, I shouldn’t repeat this, but when they hired me
as an Athletics director, I sat in an architect’s meeting, and I am as dumb as a post when it comes to anything to do
with numbers and angles. And they are like: the fundibulator valve of the architectural, uh, what do you think doctor Joseph? Uh, let me look into that for you
and get back to you. (Laughter) Right? I was in a, oh god god, please don’t
ask me, please don’t ask me. We all have this negative
self-talk that goes in our head. Guess what? There’s enough people that
are telling us we can’t do it. That we’re not good enough. Why do we want to tell ourselves that? We know for a fact that
thoughts influence actions. We saw it there with the video
Sheldon, Dr. Levy showed. We know that our
thoughts influence actions, why do we want to say that
negative self-talk to ourselves? We need to get
our own self-affirmations. Muhammad Ali, what was
his self-affirmation? I am the greatest! Who else is going to tell you? There need to be quiet
moments in your bedroom, quiet moments when
you’re brushing your teeth. That we need to reaffirm: “I am the captain of my ship
and the master of my fate!” That is my affirmation. I came from a school
of one thousand people, I lived in a town of one thousand
people for fifteen years; there’s no reason that I should be
in charge of an Athletics department, building maple leaf gardens. But I am the captain of my ship
and the master of my fate. If I don’t say it,
if I don’t believe it, no one else will. How do you build self-confidence? Get away from the people
who will tear you down. There’s enough of that. Muhammad Ali, I am the greatest!
There is no one better than me. There’s a difference between
hubris, and ego, and false pride. It’s just reminding yourself
in quiet silent moments, I put it down on a list, it’s right beside my mirror, right? about all the things that
make me who I am. Because I make enough mistakes, and the newspapers will recognize it, and people around me
will recognize it; and they’ll tear me down, and pretty soon
I’ll begin to believe it. There was a time when
my confidence was really low. There was a time when I took this job when I came from Iowa, I don’t know if I could do it. I had to bring out
my self-confidence letter. A letter I wrote to myself
when I was feeling good. Ivan, congratulations on
getting your PhD before 40. Congra…I am 40, under. (Laughter) Congratulations on winning
a national championship. Good job on raising three good kids
and marrying the right woman. I wrote a letter to myself, it was my own brag sheet. My own letter about
the things I was proud of. Because there are moments, and we’ll all experience them
in our career, in our lives, in our job hunting,
in our relationships; when we are not feeling good about who, and what, and where we are. And I had to bring out that letter
and read it time and time again, for a period of about two weeks,
to weather me through that storm. It was important. Stop the self-talk,
the negative self-talk. If you watch you’ll see some athletes
that have a little bandage, or a little brand around them. Lance Armstrong is a perfect one. What’s his self-affirmation? Livestrong isn’t a brand,
it was to remind him of who he was. Live strong.
Then it became a brand. He would move that from
one arm to the next arm, when doubt and fear
came into his mind. Live strong, put it on there, let’s go. We’ll all have it, we place it. Two ways to build self-confidence. I’m worried about my time I’m gonna tell you of one way you can build
self-confidence in others. We are coaches and educators, we are teachers, we are people who will create value in the world; and in doing that, we are critical
by the nature of what we do. I am a coach,
I want you to score a goal. The ball went over high.
“Dang it!” The ball went high! “Thank you coach, I know that.
Feedback tells me that.” So what do we do? I need you to put your elbow here, I need you to put
your knee over the ball, I need you to follow through. Boom. Land. Great. Notice, I never made it
as a professional. (Laughter) What can we do? We fix mistakes. When I’m fixing that mistake: “Johnny, this is terrible, you need to bend your knee,
you need to do this, this.” What have I done to Johnny’s
self-confidence? Bend your knee,
then do this, then do this. Next thing you know,
Johnny’s crushed. Ignore what Johnny does wrong and find Bob or Sally
or Freda over here. Great goal Freda, I love how
you kept your knee low, you followed through,
and you landed like this. Great job! Johnny: “Oh?” Great! Johnny’s not demoralized. His confidence isn’t shot, and what I’ve done is,
I’ve built up Freda’s. Imagine how we could change
the way we parented kids. Instead of: “get that glass off the counter,
what’s wrong with you?” (Laughter) If we catch the mother, good. Great job! Great job. Thank you Alice for taking
your glass to the counter. It sounds simple but
we forget about it. Or as educators,
or as somebody as a team, if we manage to praise the positive behaviour that
we wanted to reinforce. We forget it.
It sounds so simple. Catch them when they’re good. We forget it. It’s simple. Here’s what they did. There was a study
in Kansas that did this. They did video, and we all do video. And we show the video of them
doing the run of the play: “Um, this goal happened because
the basket wasn’t protected, we didn’t rotate here, right? We needed to do this
and then cover the slot.” And, if that’s the baseline, improvement of the Kansas
State team went like this. Then, they said they ignored all of that and they just showed them
the times they did it right. The times they did it perfect. That presented no goals,
spoke to the same points, improvement went like that. It changed and revolutionized
the way we as coaches interact with our student athletes. We can apply that to the business world, we can apply that
to our student group works, we can apply that
to our management teams. Easily: catch them when they are good. Last and certainly not least. My son is really good at this. Self-confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to. I ask my son who is
by the far a terrible, terrible athlete, gets it from his dad. (Laughter) The game’s… How’s the game? Oh great! I scored three goals,
I got two assists. I’m like: “I did not see him
touch the puck!” But he has his own perception of how he did! (Laughter) I love it! (Laughter) Right? I’m the…I’m that guy! I’m like: “I remember when I was taking when I met my wife,
it was in the commons. “Paulie, would you like
to go to the movies? Ladies? Tingly, tingly, tingle.” (Laughter) And she goes: “Ah, no.” I asked her again. Cause I think that she just
hasn’t seen me in the right light. (Laughter) Maybe, that’s not the wrong shirt on. Right? Cause I’m interpreting that
the way I want to interpret it. Finally I asked her out again. She gave me this one comment, right?
Or, she sent it to her friend. Cause that’s the way
you did it back then. “She wouldn’t date you unless there was the last person on Earth, hell was freezing over, there was a small chance
we had to save the planet Earth. Some people, it’s like,
there’s no chance. I’m like: “You’re saying
there’s a chance.” (Laughter) Right? Because that’s how
I’m gonna interpret it. If I could give you
one thing to take from this, it is: no one will believe in you unless you do. Listen to the words of that video, here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes. We’re supposed to be different, folks. And when people look at us, believe in yourself. Thank you. (Applause)

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100 thoughts on “The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU

  • July 26, 2019 at 11:03 am
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    By far the best I came across. Thank you Dr. Ivan Joseph for bringing my focus where it should have been.

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  • July 28, 2019 at 9:58 am
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    what a motivation I love it man

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  • July 30, 2019 at 12:12 pm
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    REPETITION… REPETITION… REPETITION…

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  • July 30, 2019 at 10:23 pm
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    This felt more like a self affirmation lecture for a insecure physical therapist/ now speaker.

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  • July 31, 2019 at 9:34 am
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    日本の会社や学校やスポーツの教育者はこれと逆のことをしている人があまりにも多いように感じます。
    多くの人が見るべき動画だと思います。ありがとう。

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  • August 1, 2019 at 2:19 am
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    くり返しみる

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  • August 2, 2019 at 12:41 pm
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    Amazing speech

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  • August 2, 2019 at 7:57 pm
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    I'm a teacher/coach of 15 years plus. Dr. Joseph is spot on. His delivery of such truth is captivating.

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  • August 2, 2019 at 9:55 pm
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    5 mins in and this is some good stuff

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  • August 3, 2019 at 3:16 am
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    Porque siempre los Mejores Videos Son siempre en Ingles!

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  • August 3, 2019 at 6:28 pm
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    No one will believe in you, unless you do
    💜❤💜

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  • August 3, 2019 at 8:28 pm
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    Catch them when they are good 🙂 , Always see the brighter side

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  • August 5, 2019 at 2:02 pm
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    He sounds like Denzel Washington.

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  • August 5, 2019 at 2:55 pm
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    I’m failing my way to success.

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  • August 5, 2019 at 8:57 pm
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    He gives a Freddie Mercury vibe lol
    Great talk!

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  • August 6, 2019 at 2:43 am
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    How can people not like this?! But then again we are all supposed to be different.

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  • August 10, 2019 at 1:11 pm
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    I think the self confidence depend on personality for example he has strong personality( looking of his speech and also of his character ) so it's easy for him. But there are some people which they don't have such personality like him for example but they have fear. So they wouldn't be able to gain such stong personality like him (so there's no more self confidence), so in this case I think first we have to make our personality then we will have automatically self confidence. For me self confidence depend on personality.

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  • August 10, 2019 at 5:00 pm
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    Some good points, but overall super corney.

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  • August 10, 2019 at 11:48 pm
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    Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.

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  • August 11, 2019 at 2:56 pm
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    6:15 any Oprah fans here!!! Love it!

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  • August 11, 2019 at 4:32 pm
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    hi everyone i want to learn this dialect ?what is it?

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  • August 11, 2019 at 4:37 pm
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    That was great! He has a great attitude and is funny too 🙂

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  • August 12, 2019 at 7:22 pm
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    Thank you for inspiring us! Self Confidence truly is one of the most important ways that we can live full out

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  • August 13, 2019 at 7:15 am
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    This guy looks like the indian Dave Chappelle . Really nice presentation tho

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  • August 13, 2019 at 11:58 am
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    OMG, that " Last man on earth => There is a chance" was so inspiring

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  • August 13, 2019 at 4:58 pm
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    I was crying throughout the whole video. Thank u for sharing such inspirational thoughts. Thank u very much, this make me feel motivated to be more confident of myself and to be not ashamed for failing. I feel totally sorry for myself for being a complete coward running away than facing her own fears. I just hope this year will be the start of my changing, I hope everything will work out. I'll remember ur words and advice's properly. Repeat. Practice.

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  • August 13, 2019 at 9:28 pm
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    Actually God is the master of our fate.But we still need to be confident

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  • August 14, 2019 at 11:32 am
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    I love his talk

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  • August 16, 2019 at 9:53 pm
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    Hello Scorpion, because schools have a hidden governmental agenda to teach you good behaviour, to accept things without asking why, to prepare for work, to pay your taxes so that the rich gets richer and you stay where you are. Oh! Don't forget that thinking is prohibited and you will become a threat to national security if you dare to think.
    The rich want us all to remain in the dark where we can be exploited and abused through hard labour, obedience and an instilled belief that we were born to work like donkeys.
    My advice to you: Read. Inform yourself about every subject you feel curious about. Learn and apply what you learn to improve yourself as a human being and as an individual with as many rights as the ruling elite.
    Go out there tiger!
    The world needs people with inquisitive minds. Fight for your rights.

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  • August 18, 2019 at 12:37 am
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    Great video. Thanks !

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  • August 18, 2019 at 4:57 am
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    Pressure builds diamonds!

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  • August 18, 2019 at 8:23 pm
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    All this pain and loneliness.all people around me just want money cars party…. i just want one hug,a true hug from real friend.i am just in pain from being abdonded from girlfriend, friends family.i look at them and inside me just screaming give me a hug, just a true hug 😔😢

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  • August 18, 2019 at 8:43 pm
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    Wow …Powerful video..!

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  • August 20, 2019 at 12:57 am
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    No one will believe in you unless you do.
    Catch yourself when you’re good.
    Interpret feedback the way you want to.

    “I’m the captain of my ship and master of my fate.”

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  • August 20, 2019 at 11:44 am
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    hahaha Lance Armstrong, Live strong??wtf he was just thinking how pure were the substances..

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  • August 20, 2019 at 6:43 pm
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    i agree with what this guy is talking a-boat

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  • August 20, 2019 at 8:13 pm
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    He sounds like Denzel Washington.

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  • August 21, 2019 at 3:35 am
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    This is the most energetic talk that i've watched recently. I think that the best way to stay confidence just be yourself and don't think about other opinions.

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  • August 21, 2019 at 4:58 am
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    The JK Rowling stat always makes me laugh.

    I've seen successful authors with rejections in the 100s.

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  • August 21, 2019 at 3:33 pm
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    What a lesson he taught.. 👍

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  • August 21, 2019 at 8:59 pm
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    any beautiful person out here in YT land can spare a minute or two to leave a like a sub or a comment on my YT page? Thank you guys i love you !!

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  • August 22, 2019 at 8:12 am
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    Repetition, persist, self talk, positive feedback, beliefs.

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  • August 22, 2019 at 12:16 pm
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    Q: How to not give a damn about others opinion about you?
    And: I did not choose to being born in this world and so is everybody.

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  • August 22, 2019 at 12:52 pm
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    What an amazing word

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  • August 24, 2019 at 9:29 am
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    Inspiring!

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  • August 25, 2019 at 7:13 am
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    Great convincing power of that great guy…(i understand very few ted x talks deeply and effectively)
    Beautifully taught about great lesson of self confindence….

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  • August 25, 2019 at 4:24 pm
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    Victoria secret makes me lose confidence.

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  • August 25, 2019 at 6:04 pm
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    1. Repeat, repeat, repeat. Repeat & Persist until you get the results you want.
    2. Affirmations. E.g. I'm the greatest. Live strong
    3. Write a letter to yourself with all the things that you have done right.
    4. Focus on what is right and praise the good behavior that we want to encourage. Ignore bad behavior.
    5. No one believe in you if you don't.

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  • August 26, 2019 at 8:57 am
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    Self-confidence is really important, thanks for sharing your insights. Tedx Rocks!

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  • August 26, 2019 at 10:06 am
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    Really wish that every adults think like him.

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  • August 26, 2019 at 8:52 pm
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    اين الترجمة العربيى ؟. شكراا لكم .

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  • August 28, 2019 at 4:10 pm
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    I really hope for your help 🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️

    Visa: 4172 2100 7813 4235

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  • August 28, 2019 at 11:51 pm
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    Best guideline lesson

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  • August 29, 2019 at 6:02 pm
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    If anything, atleast you'll be blissfully unaware of the harsh reality, and for most of us that can be enough to help us get through tough times, I don't recall a time when being stressed about something ever worked in my favour. Good day to you!

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  • August 29, 2019 at 6:29 pm
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    3:52 That's not self-confidence, that's desperation.

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  • August 29, 2019 at 9:50 pm
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    can someone post this link of kansas video?

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  • August 30, 2019 at 11:26 am
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    انا قائد سفينتي و المتحكم بمصيري

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  • August 31, 2019 at 2:37 am
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    Very nice video, thank you.

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  • August 31, 2019 at 7:54 pm
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    The amount of positivity in this man and this video is just wow. I hope everyone who sees this comment decides to build their self confidence and actually do whatever they want 🙂

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  • September 1, 2019 at 1:33 pm
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    What do u need for self confidence
    Me: alcohol 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

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  • September 2, 2019 at 12:53 am
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    Great…!!!

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  • September 2, 2019 at 7:42 am
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    Abbey lee Miller could do with watching this !!

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  • September 2, 2019 at 12:03 pm
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    pressure builds diamonds.

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  • September 3, 2019 at 12:02 am
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    Great job!

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  • September 3, 2019 at 12:45 am
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    Love this. Thank you Doc.

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  • September 3, 2019 at 5:20 am
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    Amazing…. i learned a lot from this video…

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  • September 3, 2019 at 4:29 pm
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    Who has built confidence after waching this video?

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  • September 5, 2019 at 11:44 am
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    Amazing!! 💪🏽💪🏽

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  • September 5, 2019 at 12:55 pm
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    Thank you for ur speech it is remarkable and student like me who nervous all the time……

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  • September 5, 2019 at 1:50 pm
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    damn, this video absolutely makes my day !!!

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  • September 5, 2019 at 4:02 pm
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    Just be self aware because there’s a fiiiine line between confidence and arrogance

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  • September 5, 2019 at 6:33 pm
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    You are easy to catch "doing good" and doing it right!

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  • September 6, 2019 at 2:36 am
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    amazing

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  • September 6, 2019 at 5:30 am
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    Thanks for the tips !! Will be helpin a lot .

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  • September 6, 2019 at 9:03 am
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    Without confidence.. it's like people live lives of quiet desperation. It's SO important to develop!
    @Tim: Bro.. just look up a program called Unbreakable Confidence..
    Look for the site that has the big video on the homepage..
    If you're watching this for the purpose of getting rid of your approach anxiety and becoming more confident around women.. I'd highly suggest you read those guides. They're super helpful.

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  • September 6, 2019 at 1:58 pm
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    تعلمت من تيد اكثر ماتعلمت من مدرسة

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  • September 6, 2019 at 2:49 pm
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    "No one will believe in you unless you do". Really need this video right now. Thank you so much it really helps me a lot. 😭

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  • September 6, 2019 at 7:57 pm
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    You made my day man❤️

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  • September 6, 2019 at 10:14 pm
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    Super funny and amazing

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  • September 7, 2019 at 7:54 am
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    oh!! Wonderfu!!!

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  • September 8, 2019 at 7:49 am
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    А вы денег до зарплаты перехватили ,от совкомбанка ?

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  • September 8, 2019 at 10:12 am
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    So inspiring …..

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  • September 8, 2019 at 2:50 pm
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    That pressure builds diamonds quote is gold

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  • September 8, 2019 at 8:59 pm
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    Thoughts influence actions 💯

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  • September 9, 2019 at 1:43 am
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    Catch them when there good!

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  • September 9, 2019 at 5:54 am
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    Cameramen hate him! Click to find out why 😂

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  • September 9, 2019 at 3:20 pm
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    Brother,ur words are great.God bless you.

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  • September 9, 2019 at 5:11 pm
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    1. "Self-Confidence" -> The ability or belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity.

    2. Self-confidence just like most things is a skill that can be learned through repetition, repetition & repetition.

    3. Stop the negative self-talk. There's already enough people telling us that we are not good enough, don't let it be you.

    4. Create a list of all the good things about you, things that make you feel proud, because if you don't reaffirm yourself then no one will.

    5. Build confidence in other people around you. Catch them when they are good. And built-up their confidence.

    6. Don't forget to praise the positive behavior that you want to enforce

    7. Self-Confident people interpret feedback the way they want.

    8. Remember, you don't need anyone to believe in you except you.

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  • September 10, 2019 at 5:22 am
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    Kinda like Jude Demorest, she went 11 times or so to her audition for Star and whoop! Well she got it!

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  • September 10, 2019 at 8:21 pm
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    𝕀𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕨𝕒𝕟𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕖𝕩 𝕓𝕒𝕔𝕜 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕣𝕖𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕡 𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕖𝕕 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕤𝕥𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕔𝕠𝕟𝕥𝕒𝕔𝕥 𝔻𝕣 Zulu 𝕟𝕠𝕨.
    ℍ𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕎𝕙𝕒𝕥𝕤𝔸𝕡𝕡 𝕟𝕦𝕞𝕓𝕖𝕣:
    + 𝟚 𝟛 𝟜 𝟠 𝟙 𝟛 𝟚 𝟜 𝟡 𝟜 𝟠 𝟘 𝟚.
    ℍ𝕖 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕜𝕤 𝕧𝕖𝕣𝕪 𝕗𝕒𝕤𝕥.💯💯💯💯💯

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  • September 11, 2019 at 5:42 am
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    really worth watchingg!!!

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  • September 11, 2019 at 6:35 pm
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    C'est incroyable…Merci pour cette vidéo. Votre idée est génial.

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  • September 12, 2019 at 2:23 pm
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    Ivan you make me confidence to decision something. I don know effect. But I love you 💕

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  • September 12, 2019 at 11:00 pm
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    🦋if your not Confident in yourself start reading the Bible

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  • September 13, 2019 at 12:19 pm
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    I am the captain of my ship and master of my fate

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  • September 15, 2019 at 5:57 am
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    Great talk but Edison didn't invent the light bulb, Tesla did.

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  • September 15, 2019 at 6:09 am
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    I love that one.

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  • September 15, 2019 at 4:55 pm
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    A bad player with confidence(Diego Milito) is worth more than a good player without confidence(Mario Balotelli).

    A good player full of confidence makes a top-tier athlete(Cristiano Ronaldo, Zlatan Ibrahimovic, Ronaldinho, etc.).

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  • September 16, 2019 at 4:55 am
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    Another great speach from Deinzel Washington

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  • September 16, 2019 at 8:16 pm
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    You re not a drop in the ocean…you are an ocean in a drop….

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